The new year carries hopes for a fresh start, better habits, and dreams finally coming true. If you hang out anywhere on social media, you’ve likely seen a recent status update to the effect of, “This is going to be the best year EVER!” Some may post declarations of going to the gym, making a daily gratitude list, or giving up booze. Others will take the opportunity to step onto the soapbox and tell everyone that they will hereby continue the awesome habits they are already practicing every day in their already awesome lives. Both groups have the potential to be equally inspiring and annoying.
The truth is that January 1st doesn’t carry any special magic. A month from now, most people won’t remember their New Year’s resolution. People who are generally inclined towards regular self-improvement will likely continue to do so. Others may not. The difference has nothing to do with their external situations. Success or failure in almost anything starts from within. Once you start believing in yourself, you create a domino effect of positive outcomes. This is true whether you are trying to lose weight, start a business, or just be happier in life.
The biggest excuse people have for not doing what they need or want to do is, “I don’t have the time.” Yet, every human being on the planet has the same amount of time in a day. Time is a constant, not a variable. It is what it is. Luckily, although time doesn’t change, you can. Lack of confidence manifests as fear and perfectionism. However, you can start building confidence at any given moment. Believing in yourself requires little investment and is very liberating, both mentally and physically. As Henry Ford one said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t… you’re right.”
2. You inspire others to believe in you.
Authentically confident people are inspiring. When you truly believe in yourself, you hold the power of influence. Others will want to aid your efforts. This is especially important if you are growing a business or embarking on any endeavor that requires support. All that said, sometimes others believe in us before we believe in ourselves. When someone tells you that they know you can do it and not to give up, listen to them! What they are seeing is real.
3. You handle criticism more objectively.
Nobody likes to get negative feedback. The most successful people are those who can take input from others, weed out the valid points, and make adjustments for the better. Believing in yourself forms a more solid emotional foundation. It allows you to rationally consider both the information and the source. You also won’t get your feelings hurt as easily, as you’ll be able to compartmentalize negative intentions. If there is some truth to what the other person is telling you, you will be confident enough to take it with gratitude and put it in action to your benefit.
4. You become less judgmental.
Judgment and negative energy are a reflection of the giver, not the receiver. People who spend a lot of time judging others generally spend very little time working on themselves. When you put your energy into your own life and choices, you stop focusing on everyone else. The road to truly believing in yourself is paved by knowing and accepting yourself, flaws and all. Walking that journey also makes you much more compassionate and aware that others may also be traveling down a path that you cannot see.
5. You increase your power of persistence.
Everyone faces tough times. While falling down is universal, the ability to get up and keep going is individual. Believing in yourself doesn’t mean believing you are all-powerful or perfect. It means trusting your ability to figure things out and keep going. If anything, those who are truly confident expects some bumps in the road. They know that those stumbling blocks will either teach them something, make them stronger, or propel them to some unexpected place. Believe in yourself and keep going.
6. You attract miracles.
By default, believing in yourself creates positive energy. As you begin to expect the best, you will start to see things happening that are perfectly aligned with your desires and goals. Energy attracts like energy. It is not blind faith or luck; it’s the way things naturally work. It’s knowing that you are doing what you need to do towards creating your ultimate outcome. My personal mantra is, “As I am moving towards my goals, they are also coming towards me.”
7. You become more disciplined.
A deep internal belief in oneself invariably leads to better habits in life. You don’t want to let yourself down! Accepting and believing in yourself is extremely empowering; with great power, comes great responsibility. You can no longer blame others or wait for external forces to make things happen for you. People who have a deep inner belief in themselves also tend to develop great external strategies.
8. Your potential for success becomes exponential.
Tapping into pure self-confidence is like finding an ocean. When you first start testing the waters, it may feel uncomfortable. As you find initial success, your initial hesitance fades and excitement starts to take over. Eventually, you are the ship with unlimited potential, eager to see what’s next. Everyone’s journey may be a little different, but once you get there, the possibilities are endless. Increased confidence brings increased capacity.